“Cherish those moments, because you’re gonna miss them”
is the advice I heard from almost all parents during the newborn stage. While there are a few things I miss (being able to carry my babe in his car seat without tremendous strain, non-smelly poops, not having to chase my baby around the house), there are more things that I DON’T miss about having a newborn. These things include:
- Sleep deprivation. Unless you have been the parent of a newborn you have no idea what I’m talking about
- cracked and bleeding nipples
- unexplained fussiness. I felt like my baby was an alien, and we had no way of communicating. His crying for “no reason” was discouraging, frustrating, even maddening at times
- emotional exhaustion. crying at the drop of a hat
- changing 12-14 diapers a day
- nursing every hour and a half for 30 minutes at a time
- feeling totally confined to the house and feeling guilty about wanting to get out
I could go on for days, but I’ll stop there. My point is this: people have told me that parenting just keeps getting harder, but there is no way on God’s green earth that having a 7 month old is harder than having a 7 week old. I can’t speak for other parents, but in my case, nothing could be further from the truth. I know that each stage presents its challenges, and I wish we could skip the middle school years altogether, but I can’t help thinking that each stage will also bring a fresh set of rewards, a fresh dose of mommy patience, and more love for my child. Being a parent is the hardest thing I will ever do. It is also the most rewarding. My hubby and I were just talking about how much life changes when you become a parent. Your entire world shifts so that you revolve around the needs of a different being.
If I could give one piece of advice to new moms out there, it is this: Cherish those moments - not because you’re gonna miss them - not because one day you will look back and wonder what happened to that 8 pound bundle - but because cherishing moments for what they are, learning to find beauty in the everyday, mundane, difficult tasks of parenthood is what will keep you sane in the coming days, weeks and months. You have better days and worse days ahead of you. I know I have better days and worse days ahead of me.
When you become a parent, your life will change DRASTICALLY. You will become a different person. These are facts. Anyone who tells you differently is a liar. But different isn’t always bad. Change isn’t always negative. In my case, it was the most awesome thing that has ever happened to me.